Debbie Pincus is the creator of
She is also the author of numerous books for young people on interpersonal relations:
For more than 25 years, noted psychotherapist Debbie Pincus has offered effective, compassionate therapy and coaching in the Greater New York area. As an expert in calm parenting, one of her strengths is helping parents cope with anxiety in the face of disappointment, frustration and anger at their children’s behavior.
Debbie leads parent groups through Greenwich Hospital and The Relationship Center. She is the founder and Executive Director of The Relationship Center. She serves on the Board of the Larchmont/Mamaroneck Counseling Center and writes online articles for EmpoweringParents.com.
Debbie has offices located in New York City, Larchmont, NY and Greenwich, CT. She lives in Westchester County, NY with her husband. She has three grown children.
Debbie maintains a website at DebbiePincus.com.
Her post-graduate training was at the Gestalt Institute of New York and the Bowen Family Institute of Georgetown.
She is also trained in cognitive-behavioral and dialectic behavioral therapy.
She is a certified Screamfree Parent and Marriage Coach.
“I will help you to develop your capacity to stay connected to those who matter to you, while maintaining your sense of well being. You will learn ways to reduce your anxiety and reactivity, become aware of the role you play in your problematic interactions, and become more successful in resolving conflicts and talking to one another.”
Debbie was quoted in MarketWatch: “Estranged from your adult child? Here’s how to work through the pain and regain some peace” by Morey Stettner
Debbie was quoted in Money in “I Can’t Stop Buying My Kids Expensive Sneakers. What Is Wrong With Me?” by Elizabeth O’Brien.
Debbie was quoted in The Chicago Tribune in the following articles:
“You’re ready for your adult child and his kid to move out. How do you handle?” by Christen A. Johnson.
“How to get along with your child” by Danielle Braff.
“Are your kids inheriting your fears? What parents can do to stop the cycle” by Debbie Carlson.
Debbie was quoted in The Washington Post in “Is the mean mommy voice better than yelling?” by Jennifer Wallace.
Debbie was quoted in The Pocono Record in “Parents: To help kids thrive, encourage these four aspects of life” by Amy Leap.
Debbie was quoted in PsychologyToday.com in “Do Your Children Yank Your Chain?” by Dena Kouremetis.
Debbie was quoted in Nasdaq.com in “Poll: 3 in 4 parents with adult kids help them pay debts, living expenses” by Brady Porche.
Debbie was quoted in Aarp.org in “When Boomerang Kids Land in Your Empty Nest” by Mary W. Quigley.
Debbie appeared on Good Morning America in a segment of their “Failure to Launch” series named “Moving Back in with Mom and Dad” by Nightline’s Juju Chang.
Debbie was featured in a radio interview on The Jerry Agar Radio Show on NewsTalk 1010 from Toronto.
See a complete list of Debbie’s media mentions.
Why is it so hard to motivate kids? As parents, we often have a funny, inaccurate belief that our children won’t care unless we twist their arms. But the simple truth is that your attempts to motivate your child are probably working against you. You can’t make your child care just because you do—in fact, you... Read more »
How do you motivate a child who doesn't seem to want to do his school work? As parents, we are invested in our child’s academic life because we know how important it is for their future. Unfortunately, our kids don't always seem to share our concern about their future. We know this because they continue... Read more »
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Most couples have experienced this situation at one time or another—you think you should discipline your child a certain way, and your spouse or co-parent wants to handle it differently. You each become entrenched in your position. And what started as a problem between you and your child quickly evolves into a problem between you... Read more »
Calm Parenting—most of us aspire to it, desire it, and even promise ourselves we’re going to do it—but it’s so difficult to sustain. We know how important it is to parent from our principles rather than from our fears, but despite our best intentions we lose it and end up yelling at those we love... Read more »
Feeling underappreciated goes with the territory of parenting. As a mom, how many times have you wished for more acknowledgement for all you do—from your children, your mate or society? And how many times have you been disappointed when you didn’t see or feel that acknowledgement and encouragement coming back to you? It might be a... Read more »
If you are estranged from your adult child, if your child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. When your child cuts you out of her life it provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn... Read more »
If your child is struggling—socially, academically or behaviorally—he is probably getting a lot of your attention right now. So much attention, in fact, that you may feel like you have nothing left for yourself at the end of the day. Working, taking your child to tutoring or counseling, running back to school to pick up... Read more »
Siblings bicker—it’s what they do. They tease and taunt and fight. It can drive parents crazy and wear us down—and for good reason. “Mom, he just called me a bad name.” “I did not, you liar!” “He did too, Mom, and he always does. You just never see it!” “Get lost, brat. You’re such a baby!” “I hate you!” Seemingly... Read more »