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How I Gave Consequences that Worked (and Lived to Tell the Tale)

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:39:22 +0000

When my son was a toddler, getting out the door of our house was always the hardest part of any trip. Nowadays, it’s the leaving of a place—any place, whether it’s the park, a birthday party, or even the doctor’s office—that throws him for a loop. At karate last week, he actually kneeled in front of the vending machine they have there and literally refused to budge. He had his eyes on the Skittles and was not giving up on them without a fight. “No candy today,” I said, bracing for the eruption I could feel was coming.

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ADHD Kids May Need Help in Recognizing Emotions in Others

Dr. Robert Myers — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 17:19:34 +0000

Have you ever been in a situation in public where your ADHD child continues to annoy others (or you) with their inappropriate behavior, even though you’ve given them every cue that they should stop? A recent study* conducted by The University of Western Australia found that ADHD boys had a hard time correctly identifying the emotions of facial expressions in drawings they were shown.

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Take My Bedtime Routine—Please!

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:27:21 +0000

Here’s a dirty little secret: I long for the type of family bedtime that you see in the movies. You know, the one where the parents read their children a book, kiss them on their freshly-scrubbed foreheads with an “I love you,” and softly shut their kids’ bedroom doors at 7 p.m. (more…)

ADHD Kids Can Have a Great Summer with a Little Planning Ahead

Dr. Robert Myers — Mon, 05 May 2008 16:56:31 +0000

Summer is that time every kid looks forward to. It is the “light at end of the tunnel” of a long school year. It is a time to “let loose” and have a great time. But for kids with ADHD this is a big change, and not always a positive one. The day-to-day structure goes away, the daily routine is gone. In just a few days or weeks, this long-anticipated break can become a potential nightmare for ADHD kids and their parents. Because fairly soon, these kids are going around whining and saying, “I’m bored.” They come in complaining about an argument with peers or they make a game of tormenting their siblings.

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A Day in the Life of a Child with O.D.D.

James Lehman, MSW — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 11:00:31 +0000

A day with a child who has Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a series of battles. It starts when they wake up, continues at breakfast, intensifies when they have to get dressed, and doesn’t end until they fight with you over bedtime.

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Girl Bullying called “A Troubling Trend” on YouTube

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 11:37:20 +0000

Turns out the Florida cheerleaders weren’t alone. Teens are posting girl bullying episodes and girl fighting to MySpace, YouTube, and other social networking sites. Some experts classify this behavior as cyberbullying–but is it something even worse?

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Summer’s Coming…Should You Send Your Child to Boot Camp?

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 11:00:23 +0000

Last year, a friend of mine sent her out-of-control teenage son to a well-respected, accredited wilderness camp for the summer, where he apparently thrived. And when he got back, things were great at home—for about a week. “In about 2 weeks he turned back into the same old Drew– if possible, he has even been worse,” she told me. Sad to say, this is not unsurprising. Many experts agree that boot camps, which typically last anywhere from a week to 30 days (and can cost $5,000-$10,000) do not offer long term benefits because of their short duration. The advice from professionals? If you’re considering this for your child this summer, have a plan in place–and stick to it–when your son or daughter comes back home. This will help keep your child (and your entire family) on track, and to support the experience kid has in boot camp or on a wilderness trip.

Other People’s Kids: What Bugs You the Most?

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:05:10 +0000

The other day I was in a big box store that sells things cheaply (I won’t name it, but I’ll let you guess where I was–lots of smiley faces everywhere) when I witnessed a mom in the act of “negotiating” with her kids. “Mom, I want this soda,” one whined, while the other shoved a Polly Pockets in her face. “No, now I told you we’re not going to get anything today…well maybe if you’re good…well, you look like you really want that. OK, Honey.” Her cart was full of stuff that kids crave: candy, soda, toys, and plastic junk. One lone gallon of laundry detergent sat at the bottom of the heap, and I guessed that was her original reason for coming to the store.

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Early Intervention Helps Children with ADHD

Dr. Robert Myers — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:26:46 +0000

The earlier you can diagnose ADHD, the better. Kids often struggle in school and in the community due to a lack of help and from a misunderstanding of their condition. This often leads to frustration, increased inappropriate behavior, poor academic achievement, and eventually low self-esteem and depression, not to mention an increased likelihood for substance abuse. Early and appropriate intervention can prevent these serious consequences, and instead promote healthy development with the prospects for a more satisfying life in childhood and as an adult. If you suspect that your child may have ADHD, start with a trip to a trusted pediatrician and go from there.

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Why Kids Lie (Are They Learning it from Us?)

Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:24:43 +0000

Last night my 5 year old son looked me straight in the eye and said, “I didn’t do it.” What he didn’t do was tear up a newspaper and throw the pieces all over the kitchen floor while I was on the phone. “Well, then who did?”

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