Masters of Manipulation:
How Kids Control You With Behavior
by James Lehman, MSW
Kids manipulate their parents as part of their normal routine. They learn to use their charms and strengths to get their way and negotiate more power in the family. Sometimes that manipulation is harmless, but there are other times when the stakes are higher and kids use bad behavior to make you back down. In this situation, the manipulation becomes a power and control game for the child, and that’s where it gets dangerous for parents.
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Gut Check
Shame and Anger:
The Emotional Handcuffs of Parenting
by James Lehman, MSW
 One of the unaddressed elements of children’s behavior is the pain that families go through, knowing that others are judging them. Because the fact is, they are being judged. When parents have to go to school constantly because of their kid’s outbursts, when they get in conflicts with the neighbors because of the kid’s behavior, when they’re at the supermarket and the kid throws a temper tantrum, it’s completely humiliating.
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Sibling Rivalry:
"Good Kid" vs. "Bad Kid"
Carole Banks, MSW, LCSW
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Are you tired of being the referee and judge for all your kids' fights? Do they constantly argue, leaving you exhausted and frustrated as a parent, wondering where you went wrong with them? Carole Banks is the manager of the Parental Support Line for the Total Transformation Program, and this month she gives helpful advice that will empower you to you "stop the sibling rivalry show" and start enjoying being a parent again. |
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Does Your Child Say This?
by James Lehman, MSW
 Of all the weapons in your child’s arsenal, the words “I hate you” can have the power to reduce any parent to tears or anger. Children know that saying this can paralyze a parent during a fight, which is why they use this tactic to get what they want. (Part four of a six part series.) |
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New! Parenting Resources Page on Empowering Parents
| This month, Empowering Parents is adding a “Parenting Resources” page to our site. Parents and families will now have the ability to access organizations and hotlines that deal with everything from teen depression to substance abuse. Crucial information at your fingertips: one more way we're helping parents to become empowered. |
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EP Readers Give
Two Thumbs Up to
"Look Inside" Feature
In the October issue of EP, we offered readers the opportunity to test drive the new “look inside” feature on the enhanced Total Transformation Program website.
This proved to be so popular that we wanted to give you the chance to take another look. Just click on the image above to listen to James Lehman's parenting advice from any lesson in the program. It just might transform your family's life.
One-Minute Transformations
Each
month in Empowering Parents, you'll receive a One-Minute
Transformation: a technique you can use to transform your child's
behavior that takes only a minute or less to apply.
This month:
Self-Disclosure to the Child
Let the child know what you’re experiencing. Statements such as, “It’s impossible to talk to you when you’re being rude to me,” can be very helpful to a kid.
Free Audio Lesson!
Click the play button to listen.
"You have to parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had."
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